After watching After Paradise, I felt like I didn’t really see Carly and Kirk resolve anything. I felt like she still had questions and I was so curious if she ever got the answers she deserves. Why was Kirk talking about an old girlfriend on After Paradise but never explaining why he brought her up? I knew Carly could answer that question. So I reached out and asked her what really happened with her and Kirk. Here is what she said:
Me: Did you and Kirk talk more after After Paradise?
Carly: We have talked a few times after paradise. Kirk actually had an ex at home that he couldn’t get out of his head…so he went back to pursue what he had left at home. He said the more the weeks went on…the more he felt like he was stepping backwards to her…instead of forwards with me. It hurt hearing that, but gave me a giant sense of closure. And I knew that he was at least listening to his heart…and that’s what we should all strive to do. I didn’t bring this up on After Paradise because I didn’t want to make it about a 3rd party member, and I wanted him to bring it up first and foremost…which he didn’t. I’m not sure about the status of that relationship.
It breaks my heart to see all the hate he is getting. He doesn’t deserve ANY of that.
Me: Do you forgive him?
Carly: Yes. I do. I loved him. That’s what you do when you love someone. He will forever be in my heart.
Me: What is life like after Bachelor in Paradise? Are you dating? What are you looking for in a guy?
Carly: I have gone on a few dates in Nashville (where I’m living now) but I haven’t felt that spark yet. But I KNOW he is out there and I will NEVER give up on love. EVER.
ME: You and Jade are close. How happy are you for her and Tanner?
CARLY: Jade is GLOWING. She is so in love it’s ridiculous. Whenever she gets in a funk (mostly because she couldn’t be with Tanner until after the show…) I would say “Jade, go call Tanner…he will cheer you up” and within a second of hearing his voice, she was giggling and smiling . He is her perfect counterpart. He makes her laugh…lifts her spirits….cherishes her. He loves to tell her “happy wife, happy life”. They are the real deal. And I couldn’t be more proud to call them both friends.
After I asked her these questions I sent her the following email:
“I like Kirk and I won’t hate on him but the girlfriend thing make me SO MAD! I don’t know if you watched my season of the Bachelorette but Frank (who might have been my choice in the end) did the SAME thing to me. He stayed until the final 3 and then left me in Bora Bora because he couldn’t stop thinking about a girl he just started talking to back home. I was devastated. But lucky for me, it didn’t work out with him because I met Kevin 🙂 And we just got engaged last week! So think of this as a blessing! Kirk left for a reason so you will find the right guy for you 🙂
What’s even more funny about this scenario being similar to mine is Frank was my final 3 guy and Kirk was my final 4 guy (But we were just fiends FYI). Something about the guys on my season! Ha!
Can’t wait to see what lucky guy gets to end up with you!!! xoxo”
I really do wish Carly so much LOVE! She is the total package and will find a great guy who appreciates that! I adore that she forgives and has so much love for Kirk despite everything. What do you guys think? Are you surprised about the girlfriend thing? Isn’t it fun to hear Carly talk about Jade and Tanner?! Let’s discuss in the comments below!