Hi guys! Happy Tuesday! I thought the Bachelorette was really good last night! Did you? Let’s discuss those hometown dates!
I’m going to address some pretty “loaded” topics, and I am crazy overtired because I am up every 2 hours breastfeeding my daughter. So cut me a little slack if I’m not fully explaining myself, or if I say something that you may disagree with. This blog is meant to be a discussion between you guys and me! So let’s chat in the comments below after you read it 🙂
Chase is up first! I really liked both of Chase’s parents. His dads advice about not putting work, or climbing the corporate ladder, before your family was really refreshing to hear. I think it can be hard for men to admit that and I was really happy to hear his dad say it.
Did anyone else think it was weird that he (and the show) kept playing up how he was a child of divorced parents? Aren’t like 50% of us? My parents are divorced. I don’t think that makes me any less willing to commit to someone. If anything, it encouraged me to wait to get married until I was absolutely certain that I found the right person. (See the end of my blog for a wedding update BTW!) Anyway, I just thought it was made to seem like such a huge deal that he came from a “broken” family (as he called it). I just don’t think it’s a big deal. Sad, of course that the divorce rate is so high, but it’s very common now. Maybe he kept talking about it because it was a big deal to him. And that makes total sense. Divorce can have a huge impact on some children. I guess I just don’t like that they made it seem like children of divorced parents are unable to commit to a relationship solely because of their parents divorce.
Now onto Jordan…
Did anyone else think Jojo brought up Jordan’s brother one too many times on the hometown date? It just seemed like it kept coming up but no one in Jordan’s family wanted to talk about it. That said, I’m certain the producers encouraged her to bring it up at every moment. And I’m also sure that they choose to air every time she brought it up instead of cutting during the edit. So I totally don’t blame Jojo. And honestly, I found myself SUPER curious about what happened between Aaron Rodgers and his family. But I hate to even say that I’m curious because the whole situation is super sad. It’s just that they talked about it SO much that I think it’s natural to be curious.
I also have to wonder why Jojo keeps questioning Jordan’s love. She doesn’t do that with any of the other guys. I feel like her instincts are telling her that something is off and she should probably trust her gut. I hate to say that cause I really like her and Jordan together, but I don’t know what she is sensing that is making her question his feelings. I hope those doubts go away soon, and if they don’t go away, I hope she has the strength to send him home.
Robby’s hometown was so interesting to me! You guys might think it’s weird that Jojo was questioning Robby about the fact that he broke up with a girl 3 moths ago, cause essentially she and Ben broke up about 3 months earlier. But I don’t find this weird at all. “Bachelorette Love” is very different from a long term relationship love. I’ve said this so many times on my blog before, but I don’t think people REALLY fall in true love on this show. To love someone is to know someone and that’s what happens when you’ve been with someone for a while (like Robby and his ex). I believe in “love at first sight” in the sense that you know right away when you meet someone, but you still need time to pass to confirm those feelings. Although I do love when people get married after only knowing each other for a few short weeks and then stay married for decades! But I think those people are very lucky and are the exception, not the norm. Also, if you ask any of the past couples from the show (even the married ones) most of them will say that they didn’t REALLY fall in love on the show and that real love came later when they were actually able to spend real time together. Many people don’t realize this but you probably spend a total of 72 hours with the person you get engaged to at the end of the show. That’s hardly enough time to get to know someone. Especially when they are dating other people at the same time. It would take a long time to fully explain why I think Jojo’s love for Ben is WAY different from Robby’s loves for his ex, but hopefully most of you understand what I mean from what I just wrote. My point is, Robby’s love for his ex was much deeper than Jojo’s love for Ben. So it’s natural that she’s concerned.
On another note, I believe Robby (and his mom) about his ex. I don’t think he broke up with her to be on the show. I have seen some photos floating around on the internet of them together on a trip to Italy and in matching onesies around Christmas time (maybe the same night she slapped him?), but that doesn’t mean he was lying when he said it should have ended 9 month before. I’ve been in bad relationship where they should have ended YEARS before they actually did. But it could mean he was fibbing about not talking to her since December, because the Christmas pic was supposedly taken at Christmas. But maybe they stopped talking that night or the few days after. They would still make his December statement true.
I actually like like Robby and I know that isn’t the popular opinion. I get a lot of tweets from people saying they don’t trust him or don’t like them together. But I thought their conversation on the bed about his ex was one of the most real and emotional conversations I’ve ever seen on the show. It felt raw and real whereas I feel like many of the conversations that happen on this show seem forced. Even his “I love you” seemed natural. Where Chase’s “I’m falling in love with you” seemed forced. Who says that in real life? You either love someone or you don’t. I’ve never said “I’m falling in love with you” to someone. Have you? You either say it or you don’t. I dunno. Maybe I’m wrong, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. The “I falling in love with you” just seems like something people on the Bachelorette say because they are supposed to be falling in love so they say it.
Let’s talk Luke! Luke is just a good all American boy! And the show is definitely setting him up to be the next Bachelor. Him or maybe Chase. But I think it will be Luke. The show is edited to make him seem like the perfect guy! I’m not saying he isn’t a great guy, I’m sure he is, but the show wants us to fall in love with him and they are showing us all the best parts of Luke to ensure we do. Every time he is with her, there is the most romanic country music playing in the background. I feel like I’m watching a Nicholas Sparks book turned movie when they’re together. Is that because they are meant to be together? Probably not based on the fact that Jojo was going to send him home at the rose ceremony. I’ll be SO curious to see if she sticks with her decision or changes her mind. I think she will send Luke home next week. What do you guys think?
On a personal note, I think Kevin and I have nailed down a wedding date! Just waiting for our venue to confirm! We’re so excited. I’ve always wanted to marry him, but I never felt a huge hurry because a marriage certificate doesn’t affect our daily lives. We love each other just as much with or without it. But now that Molly is here and her last name is Manno, it’s more important to me than ever to be a Manno. I can’t wait!
Now for her fashion details! I am only doing a couple looks since this blog is getting long and I need to breastfeed my little one soon.
I love her outfit on her date with Luke! Oh hey country girl! Her denim top is by bebe and her white jeans shorts are 40% off right now! Only $40! Get them HERE! Finally something affordable that she’s wearing 😉 I don’t know her exact cowboy boots, but these boots look JUST like them and are affordable.
Ok that’s all I’ve got for this week! Let’s discuss all of this in the comments below! Like I said, I don’t think of my thoughts on this blog as the be all end all! I am just thinking out loud and want to discuss with all of you!
Until next week…
P.S. When I was pregnant (like in the pic below), I alway blogged while holding a rose 😉 Ha! Now I blog while holding a baby to my breast (ok the second part is true). Oh and the heart sweatshirt below is by Jillian Harris’s adorable clothing line! Love it!