Since becoming a Mommy I’ve been shocked at the amount of criticism I’ve gotten. Motherhood is the most magical (and exhausting) experience of my life, so I thought that all the other mommies out there would be on cloud 9 like I was, and have nothing but positivity to spread. Sadly, this is not the case. Last week I posted a few posts (like THIS one) about my first week of motherhood and how much I was loving it. I even went so far to say in a comment to a follower that is was “easy” for me. I don’t take back any of what I said, the first 2 weeks were blissful! I barely slept a wink but I felt totally fine (I must have been running on adrenaline), Molly is a really good baby and only cries when she needs a diaper change or needs to be fed. We feel really lucky that she’s so good. I never once said in those early blog posts that it was going to STAY that way. I was just expressing that I was loving every minute of motherhood so far. At this point, it’s catching up to me. I still choose to look at the positive side of everything when it comes to my child. I’ve waited far too long to hold her in my arms to complain about her keeping me up at night. Will I ever have moments of weakness where I have to get some things off my chest? ABSOLUTELY! I’m actually having one right now, but I will still look for the positive everyday. So please know that about me if you continue to read my blog. I’m never suggesting that being a mom isn’t hard, I just want to focus on the gift that Molly is and be thankful for her every second of every day. I’ll talk about the hard parts, because they exist! But if I feel great and feel totally in control at times, I’m not going to say otherwise. I’ll be honest when it’s hard and honest when it’s blissful. Right now, it’s a mixture of both.
All that said, yes the first 2 weeks were pure bliss for me and Kevin. I was honestly confused by that because most parents we talked to said the first 2 weeks were the hardest. Week 3 however, it started to catch up to us. Molly barely sleeps more that an hour and 45 minutes between feedings and I am exclusively breastfeeding so that means I get very little sleep at night. She also loves to cluster feed at random times throughout the day/night so I feel like I constantly have a boob out and that makes it really hard to get anything done. Luckily, Kevin is so amazing and does so much for us. When I’m not feeding her, he loves to talk to her and sing to her. He changes EVERY diaper in the middle of the night so I can get as much sleep as possible. He’ll even burp her in between breasts while I’m feeding her in the middle of the night so I can relax even if it’s just for a few moments. Most moms tell me they don’t shower when they have a newborn, but I’ve showered almost every other day because Kevin is with Molly. Having him makes all the difference and I truly can’t imagine doing this alone. We constantly talk about how badass single parents are. It’s incredible that anyone could do this alone and I have so much respect for those people. So here’s to you single moms and dads! You’re ROCKSTARS!
Kevin goes back to work on Monday so that might change everything. I could have a mental breakdown next week. And I know he’ll still want to get up in the middle of the night to change her and burp her but I also know that I won’t want him to do that. He needs his sleep for work! He’s a radio host and is on the air from 5am until 10am and I can’t imagine doing that job while sleep deprived! I care too much about him to wake him up to change her, but I also know he cares too much about me to let me do it all alone. So we shall see what happens. We’ll figure it out together!
I’ve also learned the past few weeks that there are some products that I absolutely could not live without as a new mom. And many of you have been asking me about my must have items (including my nursing tanks that I wear in my snapchat videos) so I thought now would be a good time to share some stuff with you guys.
4moms Mamaroo – Molly spends much of the day chilling in her 4moms Mamaroo. The first week I feel like she didn’t spend much time in there because Kevin and I would just pass her back and forth saying “ok can I hold her now?” Ha! We couldn’t get enough of Molly! Well now we are exhausted and it’s so nice to be able to put Molly in this swing and relax for a little bit. She’s actually in her Mamaroo right now as I type this! It has a bunch of different settings and sounds! It’s a lifesaver!
Halo Bassinest – I don’t think I would sleep without this! It’s a bassinet that we keep in our room that swivels right over the side of the bed so I can easily get Molly in the middle of the night to feed her. As you read earlier, I feed her every 1.5-2 hours during the night so it’s SUPER nice to have this product. A friend recommended it to me while I was pregnant and I’m SO glad she did!
Cute Hats – Ok, do I NEED cute hats for Molly? YES! Ha. Ok maybe not, but I can’t get over how cute a teddy bear hat looks on her. I have THIS adorable pink hat and I just ordered THIS teddy hat and THIS white polar bear hat. How cute are they? Pics coming soon!
Zo-Li Nail trimmer – Did you know newborns are born with long finger nails? I had no idea! And there is no way that I could trim them for fear that I would cut her little fingers. We use the Zo-Li buffer every few days to buff down her nails with no chance of a boo boo! It’s actually on sale right now, so this is the perfect time to get one for your little babe.
Baby Trend Bouncer – So I love my Mamaroo but I also needed a small bouncer to fit in my bathroom when I’m getting ready for the day. I needed something small though, because my bathroom is small, so I love this Baby Trend bouncer! It’s cute and compact so I can fit it in small rooms in my little home 🙂 Also, Kevin and I love to keep an eye on Molly all the time so I like being able to move this bouncer easily from room to room.
Medela Breast Pump – This thing is AMAZING! I knew this was an item that I couldn’t skimp on so I splurged and got the Medela Freestyle Pump. It’s their best pump and so convenient because it’s completely portable. I started pumping at 2 weeks because Molly was nursing so well and I already had a great milk supply. I want to store up as much milk as I can so I can give Molly breastmilk for as long as possible (the length of time women breastfeed is different for everyone and I want to do what works best for my family). Plus, I know I will need to be away from her for more than 2 hours soon for work commitments and I want her to have yummy milk! Ha! This pump has made pumping easy for me and I am so grateful I have it! I pump once every morning after I feed her FYI.
Nursing Tanks – I live in these things when I’m chilling at home. If you follow me on snapchat you’ll see that I where a black or gray nursing tank ALL THE TIME! I got mine HERE. Maternity/nursing clothes are always a bit more expensive than regular clothes and these are no exception. But these tanks are getting SO much use that it’s worth the extra money. Plus they are super comfy, flattering on my body, and make breastfeeding much more convenient.
Well that’s all I have for now. I hope you guys understand where I am coming from in the first few paragraphs of this blog post. I just feel SO grateful for Molly and want to soak up every minute with her. I want to remember this time as the happiest time of my life!
Love you guys!
xoxo Ali (Mommy in training)