Will I ever sleep through the night again? Back when Molly was a newborn, I thought for sure I would get to sleep with a 6 month old – only newborns get up all night right? WRONG! I was so so wrong. I guess that’s a big pat of motherhood, learning as you go. I often find myself sitting in Molly’s room in the middle of the night and asking myself if I will ever sleep again. I know I will, but right now it doesn’t feel that way. Anyway, I figured now would be a good time to give you guys an update on Molly’s sleeping patterns. In hopes that other moms reading it this can get some insight into their baby’s sleeping routine or offer some advice for me! And as always with all my motherhood blogs, I’m hoping we can all help each other out in the comments and give each other advice on things that have worked for you and your little one.
So here’s what’s going on with Molly. She’s still regularly waking up 2 to 3 times a night. Sometimes 4 to 5 times a night. We are working on sleep training but it’s so hard for me to listen to her cry and not go to her. And even when I do try to let her cry, I usually break down after 15-20 minutes and go in and feed her. I know that’s the worst possible thing I could do because it just reinforces that if she cries for a long time, I’ll eventually come. But I’m working on it and I’m hoping that with a little tough-love I will get Molly sleeping better soon.
We were actually doing pretty well a month ago and she was sleeping up to 8 hours straight at one point (ok this only happened that 3 or 4 times, but it was AMAZING!). But then she started teething. Oh the dreaded teething! We figured that she was going to cut a tooth soon because she started drooling so much! And of course she wanted to put everything in her mouth. When we went to the pediatrician, she confirmed that Molly was in fact teething. She knew this because Molly’s gums were a little puffy and red. And sure enough a week and a half later Molly cut her first tooth. And soon after her 2nd tooth!
While we were at the pediatrician, she asked us about Molly’s sleep schedule. And we told her things weren’t going so great. She suggested we try sleep training, which we sort of have been on and off for the past month or two. But the doctor also told us not to do sleep training while Molly was teething. I’m not so sure if this is good advice or bad advice based on what I’ve read online. But I took the advice and really stopped sleep training all together for the past 2 weeks. Looking back, I think that was a mistake. When Molly wakes up in the middle of the night she’s not screaming in pain. She’s really just whining because she wants me to come in and be with her. And since we left doctors office, Molly’s sleep has gotten so bad. She averaged waking up twice a night before that and now she’s waking up anywhere from 3 to 4 times a night. I think it’s because she knows if she cries I will go get her. She’ll usually eat but I don’t think she’s actually hungry. I say that because last night went like this…
She went to bed at 6:30 PM. She usually goes to bed at 7pm, but she was sooo tired last night. Then she woke up around 9:30 and I fed her. And then she woke up again around 1 AM and I fed her again. After that I decided I wasn’t going to feed her again until it was time to get up for the day around 630 or 7 AM. She woke up twice between 1 AM till 6:30 AM and I didn’t get her. She put herself back to sleep after about 10 mins of whining each time. Then, at 6:30 AM I woke her up for the day but I didn’t feed her right away just to see what would happen. Was she starving and did she need to eat? And that’s why she was waking up so much? Or did she just want me around. I learned that she wasn’t starving at all. Because when she got up for the day at 6:30am, I put her on her play mat and she was totally content for 30 minutes until I fed her at 7 AM. So this let me know that I definitely don’t need to be feeding her every three hours throughout the night, she’s not starving, she just wants her mommy.
With this new information I’m really going to try to let her put her self back to sleep when she wakes up in the middle of the night. Yes, it’s really hard to hear her cry. But I know that she knows how to soothe herself and I have to help her learn that she has to do it herself and mommy is not always going to be there. It’s my job as her mother to not only be there for her but to help her be there for herself. I think that’s one of the most important lessons we can teach our children and it’s never too early to start.
And the thing is, I know Molly knows how to soothe herself. I always put her down drowsy but not asleep and during her naps in the daytime if she wakes up too early she will suck her thumb and put herself back to sleep. If she can do it during the day with her naps, then she surely should be able to do it in the middle of the night. We also have a great bedtime routine that last about 3o mins. Bath – massage – lavender oil on feet, nurses, bedtime song, sleep. She also sleeps with white noise and gets PLENTY of food during the day.
I also need to transition her out of her Merlin Magic Sleep Suit soon. We loved using the sleep suit as a transition out of the swaddle, but now Molly is starting to rock back-and-forth in the middle of the night when she wakes herself up and is almost flipping over to her stomach. I know that that means it’s time to transition her out of the Merlin. Any moms out there have advice for how to do this? I have this sleep sack for her to sleep in (let me know if you’ve had experience with this kind of sleep suit post Merlin) and I did try it one night a few nights ago but she didn’t sleep well at all. And she sleeping so bad in general right now that it terrifies me to take her out of the Merlin Magic sleep suit. Any advice you guys could offer would be so amazing!
Anyway, that’s what’s going on in my world. It all revolves around Molly and her sleep schedule! I know you parents out there can relate. Will we ever sleep again? I think we will, but for now I’m just gonna have to remember that the sleepless nights won’t last forever and my nighttime cuddle sessions with Molly are something I’m going to look back on and miss. So I’m just going to soak it all up and enjoy every moment while I can.
And since SO many of you are asking me on instagram, THIS is where I got Molly’s play mat. Figured this blog post was a good place to share because it’s all about Molly and babies! Also, SO many people ask me about Molly’s bows when I post a picture of her. Most of the them are from THIS SHOP and THIS SHOP – both small businesses owned by women! Woot woot! Both women messaged me recently and said that code ALI20 will get you 20% off their bows! Just thought I would share 🙂 I love Molly’s bows! She’s wearing one from one of the shops below 🙂 And she’s in her adorable teepee own by THIS small business owner!
Ok now I am shamelessly asking for all your advice!!! Can you get sleep with a 6 month old? What sleep solutions worked for your little one? Let’s discuss in the comment below!
UPDATE: Here is my main question. Do you guys think I should put her in her room at 7pm and not go back in until 7am? Or feed her at least once in the night? Or is that confusing? Like if I go in sometime but not every time so she will still cry every time because she doesn’t know if I’ll come or not. Let me know your thoughts!
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