SPOILER ALERT! Don’t read this unless you have watched Monday night’s episode of Bachelor in Paradise. I’m posting this before it airs on the west coast so want to give the warning first.
Man. So much drama on Bachelor in Paradise! Wasn’t this show supposed to be fun and lighthearted? Don’t get me wrong the “drama” can be entertaining to watch sometimes, but this episode just left me feeling sad for some of the contestants. And I want to start this blog by saying bullying is NOT COOL. It doesn’t make the person doing it look god and it doesn’t make the person receiving it feel good. Let’s break it all down…
First, I really felt bad for Christen (I really wish she spelled is Kristen) when she was breaking down in tears after Jasmine confronted her but really she should’ve known better. She sat down with not only Jasmine but also with Jack Stone who told her that Jasmine and Matt were a couple. They were plenty of other guys for her to choose to go out on a date with and she really broke girl code by asking Matt in my opinion. Especially after just talking to Jasmine a few moments earlier about how her and Matt were a thing.
But all that said, I was also super disappointed with Jasmine because of all her name calling. The whole scallop fingers story was honestly just disgusting to me. I think Alexis told it in good fun because really Alexis doesn’t have a mean bone in her body (and I dot blame Amanda and Sarah for laughing at the shrimp thing – that was pretty funny) but Jasmine took it to a whole other level by making Christen seem like a “dirty” person and just plain old being mean. And I don’t know, Christen just seems like the type of person that is really sensitive to what other people say. My heart just broke for her watching this all go down and thinking that she is probably devastated seeing what people are saying about her. And Jasmine threatening physical violence “if she wasn’t on camera” is not OK.
I am not trying to get all of us to gang up on Jasmine either. I have liked her a lot all season. And I sure there is good reason for why she is lashing out like this. Maybe she was hurt by a friend in the past who took her man. Maybe she’s hurt inside. In the end, I feel for her too. Hurt people, hurt people.
And here the thing, I feel like I can’t watch the show the same way now that I’m a parent. I just keep thinking about my daughter being put in that situation one day. I don’t mean literally being on Bachelor in Paradise. I just mean being a young adult in real life and dealing with real life’s drama and the hurt that comes along from what other people can say and do to you. I just wish everyone would treat each other a little better.
In the end Matt decided to leave and I think that was probably a good idea. I’m sure he talked to the producers and ask them if he should just give his rose away to somebody and then leave. And I’m sure the producers let him know that they were going to bring another guy in. So I think he made the right decision by not giving either Christen or Jasmine his rose. He didn’t want to pick between the two of them and that’s his decision. He seems like a really good guy and I wish him all the best!
Now let’s talk about Taylor and Derek. Should Derek have used that language when talking to Taylor? Absolutely not! You should never talk like that to your partner. That said, I truly do believe he felt terrible about it afterwards and did everything he could to talk to Taylor about it. I kind of feel like Taylor was playing the game of “I need time” but then was upset when he walked away and gave her time. For instance, when she was talking about it the next morning with Dom she said that Derek wasn’t there for her emotionally. Well, she told him to go away and he listened. I’m not hating on her though. I actually like her a lot. I just think she is still young. I used to do the how “leave me alone” thing when I really wanted my boyfriend it console me. I get it.
But someone did totally bring a smile to my face in this episode. Who you ask? Well…
WELLS! With all the drama going on in Paradise I want to end on a good note! Wells with his puppets are just cracking me up! And the fact that we’re getting to see so much of Wells is making me think that there is a very good chance he could be our next Bachelor. What do you guys think?! Tell me in the comments below!