Last night’s Bacheor was really hard to watch. I know many are you are with me when I say that I was very angry with Arie while watching last night. So let’s discuss…
Can You Really Love 2 People?
Once again, it really frustrated me how Arie would say things like “I love you so much!” to the girls. No you don’t Arie! You couldn’t possibly love them both “so much!” Instead you should say something like I love you 50% of the time because I love someone else the other 50% of the time. It just made me so upset. And here’s the thing, I like Arie. I’m sure Arie and I will be friends and I’m gonna see him at some point in the future. And he’s probably going to get on my case for giving him a hard time on my blog all season long. But I also have to call it like it is. And he royally messed up by dishing out so many I love you’s. He just over-did it.
But here’s the thing, Arie has never been faced with a direct question from one of the girls on whether or not they were the one, or whether or not he was feeling the same way about the other girl until Becca asked him on their last date. And I have to say I think he could’ve totally swept it under the rug by saying something like “try not to be in your head and just trust me” like every other Bachelor on every other season. But instead he was totally honest with her and told her that he was conflicted. Obviously that’s not what you want to hear but he chose to be honest and I totally respect that.
And this is totally random. But for those who are wondering, yes the producers tell the Bachelor or Bachelorette to let the contestants speak first when they go down for the final Rose ceremony. That’s why Lauren spoke first and that’s why Becca spoke first. Arie is instructed to basically not say anything until after they speak. However, it’s really up to Arie whether or not he wants to follow those rules. I wouldn’t have. Which is why I sent my runner up home BEFORE the final rose ceremony.
Saying Goodbye to Lauren
His goodbye with Lauren was truly heartbreaking to me. Honestly, he made me believe that he was really in love with both of them in that moment. And who knows, maybe he was. I don’t personally believe you could be in love with two people at once, but that’s also because I’ve never been in love with two people at once. I would love to hear from any of you who feel they have actually experienced that. Maybe it is possible and I just don’t realize it. The look on his face and even the way his hands were trembling just broke my heart.
And Lauren had a good point in her limo when she left. She questioned how he could be ready to get down on one knee if he was unsure about his choice until that morning. And I know the editors let us see her say that because of what ended up happening with Arie and Becca in the end. But here’s the thing, every person who leaves runner up probably said something similar to that, because almost every season of the Bachelor or Bachelorette says they were unsure until the last moment. Keep in mind editing plays a big role in how we perceive these things.
Speaking of editing, I really appreciated that they showed us Arie and Becca‘s break up unedited. We got to see both of their faces in an unedited, raw version of what happened. But here the thing. That breakup should NEVER have been filmed in the first place. That is where Arie REALLY lost some major points in my book last night. If you talk to Jason Mesnick about his public breakup with Melissa Rycroft on TV years ago (Google it if you don’t know what I’m talking about) I guarantee you he would say that his biggest mistake was breaking up with her on TV. Why didn’t Arie call him for advice beforehand?!?! Doing it on camera made it feel like he was the producer’s puppet and doing this for ratings instead of really caring about Becca’s feelings.
But I will say that since we DID see that footage of the breakup, and knowing how REAL it was, it made my heart break for Becca even more. I honestly believe with everything in me that those were the most heartfelt and real tears we’ve ever seen on the show. It was gut wrenching to see her go through what she went through. But with that said, I actually respect Arie’s decision to call it off. I know MANY of you arne’t going to agree with me but I need to say it. Just like he said, he knew his decision was not going to be a popular choice. He could’ve very well stayed in the relationship and tried to make it work even though he was still thinking about Lauren in the back of his mind. Heck, he could’ve done what most Bachelor’s and Bachelorette’s do, and dated her for a few months and then break up afterwards. That would’ve been the easier thing to do. But he didn’t do that. He went with his heart and even though what he did to Becca is absolutely awful and heartbreaking, in the end I actually think he did the right thing. What would’ve been way worse would’ve been staying with her knowing that he wanted to be with Lauren. But like I said, he lost all sympathy from me and I’m sure many of you when he brought a camera crew with him to film it.
And also, during his conversation with Becca, we learn that Becca was aware that Arie was struggling. She even knew that he had reached out and had a conversation with Lauren after the show. So it kind of seems like he was trying to be somewhat honest with her after the show even if it was hard.
Becca for Bachelorette!
And I know we’ll find out what happens with Lauren and Arie tomorrow night, but honestly that’s gonna be hard for me to stomach watching (But I will be watching and posting Insta Stories so follow me HERE). It just feels a little bit too soon. What I mostly care about right now is that Becca absolutely, 100% without a doubt, needs to be our next Bachelorette! She deserves it, and I know there are so many people out there including myself who are rooting for her to find love! The real kind of love that I believe you can only feel for one person!
Anyway, I really want to know what you guys think! I keep going back-and-forth thinking Arie is a terrible guy, to thinking he made a big mistake in choosing Becca and he’s doing his best to make it right. I’m honestly not sure which one to think! What do you guys think? Tell me in the comments below!
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