Well last night was…something. I went from being confused, to being sad, to being angry, to being so happy for everyone involved. Let’s discuss…
Arie’s biggest mistake was not being completely honest with Lauren about his relationship with Becca. I feel like when he spoke to her, he told her what he thought she wanted to hear rather than the truth about his relationship with Becca. And I don’t think he did that because he was necessarily trying to manipulate her like some of the girls on the show said last night. I think he was just so afraid to lose her, that he didn’t want to say the wrong thing. And even though it would’ve been very commendable and courageous for him to be flat out honest, I think he was just terrified. But that doesn’t make it right and I will say that I think that was his biggest mistake in all of this.
Arie’s second big mistake was lying to Becca about not knowing if Lauren was going to take him back or not. I can’t help but think that maybe the producers wanted to seem that way, so they told him to say that to her. Obviously they changed their mind because they had Chris Harrison ask the girls about it during After the Final Rose last night. Or maybe Arie just royally screwed up. This mistake is why I have a hard time understanding, or giving him any slack. It’s wrong that he lied and it’s wrong that he tried to look like the hero for breaking it off with Becca for the chance of love with Lauren.
Arie and Becca
It was so incredible to see how Becca handled talking to Arie. She has such class and poise that I can’t help but be in all of her. She was in no way better or hold anything against him and she even gave him forgiveness which I feel really takes a strong person to do. I do want to say however that I also think Arie handled himself very well. I think he did a really good job of explaining himself or at least trying to explain himself. He owned up to his mistakes and I applaud him for that.
Arie and Lauren
I’m honestly happy for Arie and Lauren. I don’t know that I would’ve been able to be happy for them if Becca wasn’t named the new Bachelorette. Because I feel like that just would’ve been too heartbreaking for her to deal with. But I remember what it felt like when I was announced as the Bachelorette, and it seems like Becca was feeling the same way I did back then! You’re just so excited and hopeful for what’s to come! You’re on a high and nothing can bring you down from it, even something like a very recent ex proposing to someone else.
And here’s the thing, Arie and Lauren have had the chance to get to know each other off-camera for at least a month now. That alone makes them more ready to get engaged than really any of the couples on the show before them. One month without cameras around them, even if it was just a few weekends together, that could mean more than the entire show itself! Because you get more quality time together without the other girls and cameras around. I have high hopes for their relationship to be honest. And I hope all of you do too. Because at the end of the day it just isn’t cool to root against two people in a relationship. So I wish them the absolute best and hope that they are truly happy together! And I mean that.
Becca as The New Bachelorette
I could not be more thrilled to have Becca as our new Bachelorette! I think we all agree that what Arie did to her was pretty horrible. Even if at the end of the day, it took courage for him to do it and he did the right thing by not stringing her along, it was still horrible. So what a way to get revenge! Becoming the Bachelorette yourself! OK OK, maybe I shouldn’t say revenge. But we’re all thinking it 😉
ABC knew they were going to cast Becca as the Bachelorette the second they knew Arie was going to break up with her. That’s why we saw all the footage of her flying out of LA and back home to Minneapolis. That’s why they filmed her getting emotional at home watching videos of her and Arie. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if the producers told her they wanted her to be the Bachelorette five minutes after Arie walked out the door. In fact, I hope they did! I hope they told her that to give her some hope! I can’t remember if it was right after I was officially off the show or a couple days after, but I do know that the Bachelor producers told me they wanted me to be the Bachelorette very quickly after being off the show. So I hope they did the same for her. Even though it doesn’t take away all the pain, I just hope they gave her something to look forward to and the belief that she will find someone out there that’s better for her!
Everything about her makes her the perfect Bachelorette! She has an extremely touching and emotional backstory, she’s beautiful but also super down to earth and we just watched her get her heart broken so we’re all rooting for her to find love! ABC is so lucky to have her! And so are we!
And I’m going to try not to judge the guys she met too much because they must’ve been extremely nervous coming out there on live TV. But I really wasn’t impressed with a few of them (one guys looked her up and down one too many times). In my mind so far Brian made the best impression even though he didn’t say much. His song was super cute and I like that he didn’t say much because he was obviously nervous and she seems smitten with him.
And before you leave I have to tell you that I just found out the dress I’m wearing below is under $30! It’s on sale for 50% off! I couldn’t believe it when I saw it online this morning so I had to add to this post. Right now it’s available in all sizes!
Ok that’s all I’ve got for this season. And I honestly think it turned out great in the end. Becca gets to be the Bachelorette and Arie & Lauren are engaged and I think will have a long and hopefully lasting relationship! What did you guys think? So curious if people are happy for Arie and Lauren or not. I am happy for them. Let’s discuss in the comment below!