On Wednesday I’m officially 34-weeks pregnant. Which means exactly 6 weeks until our little baby arrives. Well, to be honest with you, I’m actually hoping he comes a lot sooner than that. If he came in four weeks I would be one happy mama. I say that now but the more I think of it, I might not be ready AT ALL in 4 weeks. Only time will tell. And btw, I am shocked that I am still able to find cute non-maternity clothes to wear. Because my belly is HUGE! I am so happy that brands are making such cute clothes, like the dress I’m wearing in these pics, with high waists that I can wear while pregnant and well after! This dress is on sale for 40% off BTW and will be great for breastfeeding. And I love that it looks great with boots because they are so much more comfortable than a dress shoe.
UPDATE: I found the dress available HERE in all sizes! (since it’s starting to sell out on other website!)
Anyway, I feel like I’m going through a really weird stage of my pregnancy right now. I’m definitely to the point where absolutely everything is hard to do physically. My aches and pains are constant and I know I should be slowing down. But in the same breath, I’m also in full on nesting mode. You guys are going to think I’m crazy, but we’re actually smack dab in the middle of designing and furnishing our entire house. Pretty much every single piece of furniture we had from our old house is being sold or donated because it just doesn’t work in our new home. And we are completely refurnishing the entire house. Thank goodness I have the help of a fabulous designer named Veronica Valencia. But even with her taking on all of the work she’s doing, there’s still a lot for any woman who is almost 9-months pregnant.
That said, I’m really trying to figure out how I handle my urge to nest and finish the house, but also listen to my body telling me that I need to slow down.
This week I did that by taking the week off of work. I don’t officially start maternity leave from Home & Family until after the baby comes. But I’ve significantly cut back on my days there and this week I was even able to take the entire week off. I’m very fortunate that I’m able to do that and that my company is so understanding of me taking care of myself both mentally and physically. How great would it be if every employer did that? I think about the women that work jobs where they are on their feet all day and work right up until giving birth and I just truly can’t imagine or figure out how they do it. Those women are true super heroes to me!
But even though I was able to take some time off at Home & Family, as many of you know, I still work on a lot of other things. My main focus this week is going to be our house. We’re actually just finishing up our baby boy’s nursery this week! We’ll be sharing it with all of you soon! I’m really excited about that because it came out absolutely beautiful. I also have a few other work projects happening that I am going to be focusing on this week, so even though I’m not working on TV, I’m definitely still working. Just not non-stop like I normally do.
Another thing I want to do this week to help myself slow down is learn to put my phone away when I’m spending time with Molly. I’m really starting to get emotional about the fact that in a few short weeks I’m going to have a little baby boy that needs almost all of my attention and it really breaks my heart. I talk to other parents about this and they say that what usually happens is the daddy takes over with the older child since the mommy has to spend so much time nursing and caring for the infant. Kevin is an amazing dad, and honestly when I’m swamped with work, he takes over most of the parenting anyway. But the fact that I’m going to be so stretched thin with my time definitely makes me feel sad. So this week as part of my effort to slow down, I’m going to put my phone away as much as possible and focus on my time with my little girl.
And last but not least I’m going to schedule some time with my girlfriends. I was very fortunate to get some time with my girls at my baby shower last weekend, but during the shower I realized how much I miss spending quality one-on-one time with them. When you become a parent I feel like sometimes your friends sit on the back burner, and that’s OK. They have to because your husband and your child have to be on the two front burners. So this week I have two dates with friends. I’m going to an event with my friend Ashley on Tuesday, and then on Thursday I’m doing a play date with three of my girlfriends and all of our kiddos. I feel like it’s been so easy for me and my friends to say “let’s see what works” and then end up getting together last minute or not at all. But this time we made commitments, I marked in my calendar, and I’m keeping those commitments like they were business meetings! I consider those play dates self-care, and who knows how much time I’ll have to see my girlfriends once our little boy arrives.
Anyways, I’m not just sharing these things to tell you about myself. But I’m hoping this resonates with other women and encourages all of us to slow down and take care of ourselves when we feel like things are building up. And these are just the 3 things I’m doing right now to try helping myself slowdown and gear up for this baby, even though I’m in full on nesting mode at the exact same time! I’ve got to make some time for myself somewhere, and I think these small changes will help me feel more centered and ready for baby number two. And as always, I would love all of your advice on how you slowed down when you brought home another baby. Or if you weren’t able to slow down and had to “go go go” until the last minute, how did you stay sane? Would love to open the floor so we can all discuss and hopefully help each other out, so comment below. Us mamas have to have each others backs!