I’ve been thinking a lot about social media lately and how it affects people. In my mind, there are so many positives and negative‘s to social media. I for one love it because it’s a way for me to connect with so many wonderful people from all over the world. I told you this guys before but I’m really proud of the community we built here on Ali Luvs. Of course there tends to be a negative comment here and there, but generally speaking I feel like the community people that come to my blog to connect with me and other readers are very positive, uplifting, and supportive. But of course social media and the Internet in general has a darker side. But instead of focusing on that on my blog today, I instead want to talk about the social media “rules “that I follow, or follow for the most part, that I think if everybody did these things it would make the social media world a better place!
Be generous with your likes!
Every so often someone I follow on Instagram will thank me for being so supportive and liking so many of their photos. At first I was kind of surprised how many people would say this to me. I remember thinking “of course I’m liking your photos. You’re posting them so obviously those pictures are important to you, so I want to support you.” OK OK, saying the photos are important to that person might be a stretch in some cases. But when I’m trying to say is that when somebody posts something to social media, they’re usually doing it for some sort of recognition. Which is totally fine! So in my mind, it takes me all of a half a second to like someone’s photo and if they want to post it (for whatever reason), I’m going to like it to support them! In my mind, it’s as simple as that. So when I go through Instagram, I pretty much like every photo on my feed. I just feel like it’s such an easy way to support someone so why not do it.
I actually first started doing this a couple years back when one of my friends (Catherine Lowe – she’s the best!) would like a lot of my Instagram photos. And I remember thinking she was so sweet to support me in everything I was doing. When she liked my photos it made me feel good, and I wanted to be the type of person that made other people feel good too. So my number one social media rule is to be very generous with your likes! Show others that you support them – even if they’re posting a photo of their breakfast that you reeeeeally don’t care about. Ha! I’m totally guilty of posting things like that by the way 😉
This one is kind of obvious but I couldn’t leave it off the list. Be nice. The old saying if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything at all definitely applies to social media. Remember this even when you’re commenting on a celebrity’s account or a news article about a public figure. I know this sounds crazy, but back when I was the Bachelorette over 8 years ago (I can’t believe it/s been that long), I would read comments on articles about me that were negative and they really hurts my feelings. Just because someone’s a public figure doesn’t mean that they’re not real people with real feelings. And obviously I’m not writing this just to talk about celebrities or people with large followings. This applies to anyone and everyone. If you’re on Facebook and see if photo of someone maybe you’re not super fond of – don’t say something negative about them. I’m not telling you to say something nice about someone you don’t care for, but it’s better just not to say anything.
But being nice goes beyond just not saying anything negative. Go out of your way to say something nice about somebody you do like! Take it a step further and spread even more love online by commenting and saying something nice on someone’s photo. So you’re not only liking it, like I talked about above, but you’re telling that person that you appreciate their post. Commenting on other people‘s posts something I’m trying to get better at. I just think it’s a nice way to show someone your supporting them.
I go back-and-forth in my mind whether not people should ask for someones approval before posting a photo of them to social media. I don’t necessarily think you need to ask for approval but I do think you need to be aware of what photos you’re posting of your friends on social media. For example, I always find it comical when someone will post a photo of themselves and their friend where they look absolutely perfect and their friend looks a bit haggard. Meaning their friend either has their eyes closed or is making a weird face. So I always say that if you’re going to post a photo of another person online, just take a minute to think about whether not they would like that photo of themselves. And if the answer is no, then either don’t post that photo or crop them out 😉
I want to end this by saying that I don’t think anyone should base their self worth off of how many likes they’re getting on social media. I know a lot of us tend to do that and that’s definitely not what I’m suggesting here. I just think social media is a part of our lives and here to stay and these are just some simple rules that I follow that I believe helps make social media a more positive place.
That’s all I’ve got for today. I hope this post inspires you to spread a little love and kindness today. Next time you hit up Instagram or Facebook, Spread a little extra love by liking every photo you see! You never know who’s day you’re going to make!
P.S. My t-shirt is part of the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale and it’s on sale for only $17. It’s only left in limited colors but black is one of the colors and I think everyone needs a really great black tee.