Confused by the title of my blog? Honestly even as I typed it into my computer I cringed. But I’m going to stand by saying it because I really do think that women can learn something from how Arie is behaving on some of these dates. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to hate on Arie or defend him really. I like Arie and always have but I think he sending some very confusing signals. I’ll get to why I think Arie is actually teaching women all over America (or the world! Wherever people are watching!) a valuable lesson. But first let’s talk about these dates.
FYI, the below shirt is in honor of Ari’e lips. His very, very active lips. Ewwwww.
I’m confused by Becca’s date. I thought for sure that she and Arie could end up together but this date totally threw me off. That seems to be the theme with me this season. I just CAN’T figure Arie out at ALL! He said he was unsure if he should bring her to visit his family. That tells me one of two things.. 1) He isn’t sure about her and she’s unlikely to end up with him. OR 2) The producers asked him to say that on camera to throw us off. I dunno. The fact that he feels like they have to work to get back what they had at the beginning isn’t a good sign in my mind.
Other than that, there was just a bunch of making out on this date. But that’s the norm on pretty much any and every date this season.
Jacqueline Saying Goodbye
I’m always really impressed when someone decides to send them self home . I kind of just chuckled to myself after I wrote that because I realize that I actually sent myself home when I was on the Bachelor. But that’s not why! Ha! I guess I just think so many people on the show get caught up with the winning and like Jacqueline said, falling in love with the idea of falling in love rather than falling in love with the actual person on the show. So I always find it refreshing when someone realizes that and goes home on their own. So good for Jacqueline for listening to what her heart was telling her and choosing to leave. I was actually pretty surprised that Arie said something along the lines of her coming back to him if she changed her mind. I’ll be very curious to see if she does change her mind! And many of you may be wondering why she was crying so much if she was sure about leaving him. I think the answer to that question is the same reason most girls cry when leaving the show. You’re not just mourning the loss of the guy, but your mourning Having to leave all your girlfriends that you’ve gotten so close to on the show. And being sad that you’re leaving the experience in general. They are in Italy after all and are for sure heading to some other fabulous destination after home towns. You’d cry if you missed out on that too! Ha! That’s why some people stay to the very end even when they’re not committed. So it takes a really genuine person in my mind to leave on their own before getting to experience all of that.
The daytime portion of their date was definitely better than the daytime portion of their date last week. That said, it was still pretty boring. I’d like to say that the editors must be editing out all of their interesting conversations but I highly doubt that’s the case. Interesting conversations make the show more interesting. Moreso than dead silence. I honestly found myself zoning out during their date multiple times. I had to rewind it and re-watch to make sure I didn’t miss anything. But of course I didn’t miss anything because they barely said anything to each other.
The most interesting part of the entire episode in my mind was during the night portion of their date! Why in the world did Arie walk away after Lauren told him she was falling for him?! I mean, he obviously left to go talk to a producer quickly. But about what? We didn’t see any of his interview. And then when he came back he said he wasn’t himself because he was vulnerable, but that doesn’t explain why he got up and walked away. The only explanation and my mind is that maybe he walked off camera to talk to a producer about whether or not he could tell Lauren that he was falling in love with her too. But the reason I have a hard time believing that’s what he did is because when I was the Bachelorette it was made very clear all the time that you shouldn’t say I love you until the end just in case you change your mind about who you end up choosing in the end. So I feel like that’s something Arie would’ve been prepped for. But who knows, Maybe he was caught up in the moment. I just think he handled it in a very weird way. I would’ve been super offended I have if I was Lauren. And in the end he made her cry which I’m sure wasn’t his intention
I’m so curious as to what is said about that in any interviews he does coming up. However, I don’t think he’s done any interviews since the beginning of the season so I doubt we’ll ever find out. Unless they end up together, and in that case, maybe this moment will be revisited at After the Final Rose. I sure hope it is addressed in more detailed at some point.
And he told her he was falling deeply in love with her. Based on what?! They barely talk to each other. I feel like he’s falling in love with the idea of her or in love with the way she looks or something. I’m just so confused as to how he could have such strong feelings for her when he doesn’t know her. They basically met last week. Anyone else as confused about this as I am?!
My gut was that Sienne would go home when we first saw that she was getting the one in one day. However, Arie is so passionate and romantic that I was a little unsure of whether or not he would be able to send her home since they developed a pretty good connection at this point. But then I looked at the other three girls that were going on the group day and I couldn’t imagine two of them going home. Sienne just seemed like she didn’t have as strong of a relationship with Arie as the other girls did. So I’m glad Arie stuck to his guns and ended up saying goodbye to Sienne. But that doesn’t mean I wasn’t sad to see her go! I think she is a beautiful soul and I’m sure we’ll be seeing lots more of her on future shows! Maybe even the Bachelorette?
And I was just thinking that I find it strange that Arie spent so much time with her. He had to know at the beginning of the day that he was sending her home and I’m surprised that he wasted that time when he could’ve spent it with one of the other girls. That leads me to believe that Becca and Lauren are going to be his top two in the end. Because he obviously wanted to make sure he got in that time with those girls. And to put someone you’re really interested in on a group date at this point would just seem odd to me. Again, Arie has been completely throwing me off all season long. So who knows!
The group date was interesting. To be honest, I’m not quite sure how I felt about Tia bringing up her feelings about Bekah to Arie at this point. Not because I don’t think people should bring up concerns about other girls at this point in the process. I think it’s always a good idea to bring up your concerns if they are serious. I just wasn’t quite sure what her goal was for bringing up why she thought Becca wasn’t ready. She said it wasn’t necessarily because of her age, but rather her lack of experience. Which yes there is a slight difference between the two but really for the most part the older you get the more experience you have. Unless you’re 35 and have never been in a relationship before. I guess the better way to say it is the younger you are the less experience you have. Since you can be older and have little experience as well. Oh well, I still adore Tia I just don’t know that I agree with her decision here.
And I think Arie knew he was keeping Tia when he gave Kendall the rose. I’m sure the producers just asked him to get her the rose first so we got the dramatic two-on-one with Bekah and Tia. In the end, I think Arie sent Bekah home because he knew it wouldn’t work out in the long run. And I think he chose to send her home now because he probably didn’t want to face her father and explain why a 36-year-old man wanted to date his 22-year-old daughter. Heck, I wouldn’t want to have to explain that to someone’s father either! If my daughter Molly comes home one day at 22 and tells me she’s dating a 36-year-old I’m gonna have a lot of questions for the guy. Especially if that guy is telling me he wants to ask for her hand in marriage after knowing her for only two months.
A Lesson for Everyone Watching
I know I sound like a broken record since I say this every single episode, but it just bothers me every single episode. I really wish Arie didn’t make out so passionately and lovingly with every single girl! It just makes it seem not as genuine. On two dates in this episode he kissed the girls with such passion and then sent them home. I just don’t remember doing that on my season. I feel like if I sent a guy home on a date, I hadn’t kissed him earlier on that date. I honestly feel like this is almost something good for many young women out there to see. Not even just young women, any woman i the dating game. I think it shows that even if the guy kisses you like he loves you, that doesn’t mean he necessarily loves you. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I remember being in a relationship with a guy once and thinking that because he kissed me so passionately and our physical bond was so strong he must love me even though he did things to me emotionally that were wrong. I think sometimes when you love someone so much you want to believe they love you back and I used to say, because the way this particular guy kissed me, he must have loved me back. I think all the single women out there watching Arie kiss every girl this way should almost take it as a learning lesson that just because the guy kisses you passionately it doesn’t mean you’re the only woman in his life. And I’m not hating on Arie in any way! I really like Arie and I don’t think he’s trying to deceive anyone. I just think he’s a passionate kisser! But I still think it’s important for women watching this to know that passion doesn’t necessarily mean loyalty. It certainly hasn’t in this season of the Bachelor.
So in honor of Arie’s lips and the lessons they have taught us, I’m sharing my favorite “lips” tops. Ha! I own the 1st three tops and love them.
Well that was a long blog post. I just had so much to say. And now we all have SO much to discuss!!! Let’s do it in the comments below.
And before you go, check out my favorite looks form this week below 🙂