Sleep training update! Since we sleep trained Riley when he was four months old, so many of you have either commented on my social posts, DM to me, or emailed me asking how it’s been going! So I thought today would be a good day to give you guys an update on how Riley sleeping and if I would still recommend sleep training.
To give you the short answer, I would absolutely, 100% recommend sleep training! It changed our lives! It was the best thing we ever did not only for our own sanity but for Riley’s sake. I said the exact same thing when we sleep trained Molly and I mean it. I’ve blogged all about how we sleep trained Molly and I blogged all about sleep training Riley. So you can go back and read those posts if you’re curious about why we did it and how we did. However, I want to focus of this post to be how Riley‘s been doing since sleep training.
With Molly it was different because we didn’t sleep train her until she was nine months old. I, of course, thought I was being such an incredible parent to her by waking up with her every three hours – for so long. But the truth is, I was doing us both a huge disservice. Not only was I exhausted all day because I didn’t sleep for nine months, but she honestly was a very cranky baby because she wasn’t getting to sleep she needed either! So with Riley I made the decision to do it much earlier because I knew he would be better off for it. And so that was the case! Riley was sleep trained a lot earlier so I can’t really compare my experience with him to my experience with Molly. Plus every kid is different. Once we sleep trained Molly at nine months, she pretty much never woke up in the middle of the night again! And that’s the truth! Because Molly was an only child she never really got sick until she was one and a half and by that point she was easily sleeping through the night. But with Riley it’s been a little bit different. So let’s talk about that.
If you read my blog post about sleep training Riley, then you know that this time around we hired someone to come sleep train him in our home. It took her one night to get him sleeping through the night! But since then it’s been very different than our experience with Molly. Riley has woken up throughout the night, many times. But that’s not because the sleep training didn’t work this time, I think it’s because we did sleep training so much earlier than Molly and babies needs are just different when they’re younger.
Let me explain further. Since Riley is a second child he gets sick a lot more often. And that’s because Molly brings home germs from school and poor little Riley always catches what she brings home. Gotta love preschool! Anyway, when Riley is sick we got up multiple times throughout the night because his little body doesn’t know how to handle the sickness. He can’t blow his nose and he doesn’t understand what’s going on with him. So he’ll wake up crying. During this time I go in every single time he wakes up throughout the night. Sometimes it’s once in the middle of the night and sometimes three times. There’s no way this Momma is going to let her poor sick little baby figure out how to put himself back to sleep in those instances.
However, once he’s well again we reset the sleep training. And it’s really easy to do! It only takes a night or two. Basically what will happen is he will wake up and fuss a couple times throughout the night and we don’t go get him. We let him figure out how to put himself back to sleep. And here’s the thing. He’s not screaming or passionately crying! It’s really just some fussing because he’s learned that he doesn’t have to cry the middle of the night for us. He’s learned that he could put himself back to sleep, and sure enough within two nights he doesn’t even wake up anymore. Well, technically he does wake up. All babies and adults wake up multiple times throughout the night. But he opens his eyes realizes it still bedtime and puts himself right back to sleep.
And look, when Riley’s sick it, is NOT the only time he wakes up before he should. In general, Riley likes to wake up once around 3 AM to nurse (when I was still nursing – he has since stop waking up since I stopped breastfeeding a week or so ago). Sometimes he will fuss for 30 seconds and go right back to bed, and sometimes he cries for five minutes, 10 minutes tops. And I shouldn’t even use the word cries. Really, it’s fussing. And honestly there was a time when I would go in and nurse him every time he woke up at 3 AM. For the month of January I pretty much went in and nursed him at 3 AM every morning. I think it’s because I didn’t really mind it. Work stuff was slow and I was enjoying the baby cuddles because I know they won’t last forever. But now that work has picked back up, I’m realizing that I need that extra sleep until 6 AM. These 3 AM to 4 AM nursing sessions just weren’t cutting it for me anymore. So we cut out those feeds. And it was easy!
So did sleep training work and would I recommend it? Absolutely! I can’t recommend it enough! You just have to understand kids aren’t robots. They’re going to wake up in the middle of the night and you’ll have to adjust here and there. Or if you’re lucky, they will sleep through the night every night since sleep training like Molly did! But again we sleep trained her much later than Riley so that makes a big difference. Some of my favorite resources for sleep training are with Sweetdreams LA and Weesleep. If you work with either of them it will be the BEST money you ever spent! Because really, you can’t put a price tag on your sanity. I hope this post and my past post on sleep training (I linked all my past posts on sleep training below) helps so many parents out there who are trying to decide if the training is right for them and their baby. Good luck my friend! Wishing you many restful nights ahead!
And real quick before you leave. My necklace in these pics is $16, my white tee is $19 and my lounge pants (soooo flattering and comfy) are only $13!!!!! Seriously the comfiest EVER! I’m wearing them today so I will showing you in insta story! The will sell out quick. And if you want details on all of Riley’s nursery read this post where I link everything!
Sleep well my friends! xoxo
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