Oh my gosh what a trip watching the Bachelorette reunion last night! Honestly, I had a bit of anxiety waiting for it to air. I know this might sound crazy to some of you but I’m actually kind of shy. I don’t know what it is but sometimes in group situations like that I can shut down. Which is interesting to me because if you put me in a room with 10,000 people and told me to give a presentation I would be totally cool with it! But something about a small group feels intimidating to me. Luckily, all the girls are actually incredible and made me feel at ease. I truly love this group of girls and it was an absolute treat to be able to spend the day with them!
The night before we filmed, a bunch of us got together at a restaurant at the hotel we were staying at. It was so nice to catch up with the girls off-camera and hear where everybody is in their life. Speaking of, I also LOVED the home visit packages they aired on the show last night! It fun to see everyone in their home lives now that the show is done. Btw, how cute were Molly and Riley in our home package?! I can’t get over seeing them on TV! Even though they’re on TV all the time on the show I work on, Home & Family, it still blows my mind to see them on national television every single time! I’m a proud mama!
And I know in the special I said Riley was one. Basically, when we filmed that about a month ago I thought he would be one when it aired. But my timing was a little bit off. Oh well! He will be one in 3 weeks! Crazy!
Anyway, the night we were all at the bar/restaurant at the hotel it was so funny to see other people at the restaurant look at us and recognize us. Look, I don’t get recognized that often when I go out in Los Angeles. Hardly ever, honestly. Or maybe I do and people just don’t care of here. Which why would they? I’m just like everybody else in this town. So it was kind of fun to go to the restaurant and see peoples jaws drop when they looked over and saw not one but 2, 3, 4, 5, or 6 of the woman they watched try to find love on national television. It actually made our night when people would come over to our table and tell us about how they watched all of our seasons and wanted to take pictures! It was just a really cool thing to be a part of.
I do wanna tell you guys about my dress real quick. I can’t even tell you how many dresses I tried on before I settled on this one. I don’t know, I was just super nervous about the special! To be completely upfront and honest, I’m the biggest Bachelorette – size wise. Not that that matters at all because it doesn’t! If anything, I’m pretty proud of the fact that I am larger than the other girls and still got the opportunity to be the lead on the show. I think it’s important that women of all shapes and sizes are represented on television. And I get that a size 6 isn’t big. Trust me I know that. But something about standing next to all the girls, most of which are itty bitty and just petite people in general, I was super self-conscious! As you can see I look so tall in the pics standing net to them right? I’m only 5’7″. It’s not like I’m 5’11” so anything. They are just mostly petite women! And I love everyone of those teeny tiny gals. Ha!
Anyway I was really hard on myself leading up to the taping. After I tried on a million things, I finally found this dress and just felt beautiful in it! I think it would be absolutely stunning for a rehearsal dinner dress or a bridal shower dress! Wanted to link it here so you guys could feel just as good in it as I do!
What you didn’t see behind the scenes of the special was us girls chatting in a closet upstairs in the mansion. Ha! No really, a bunch of us grabbed a few bottles of wine and sat on the floor of a walk-in closet and talked for hours (while they were filming the fans checking out the mansion)! Jillian and Desiree were both pumping mamas at the time so they had their breast pumps out pumping away while we all just chatted away. We talked about the show, we talked about life now, and most importantly we just spent time supporting one another. I’ll always remember that closet chat. I’ll remember sitting on the floor looking around and seeing so many incredible women that have not only impacted my life in a big way but I know have impacted so many other lives out there too!
Rachel’s Bridal Shower
It was truly an honor to be at Rachael‘s bridal shower! I just adore Rachel because she is smart, strong, and unapologetically herself!
So being at her bridal shower and celebrating her becoming Mrs. Abasolo very soon was so special! Really, you didn’t see most of the shower. It’s been so long since I’ve been on the show that I forget that you can film for hours and then they only show a few minutes of it. That’s why every season when people are quick to judge the contestants I try to explain that we really don’t know what’s going on since we see so little of what is actually filmed. And even though they only showed a few minutes of Rachel’s shower, we were there for hours! Same goes for the Bachelorette Reunion. We were at the mansion for 8 hours and I think they showed about 30 mins of it, if that!
And during Rachel’s bridal shower, we drink lots of champagne! Spent lots of time talking about Rachel’s love story and had a little bit too much fun in the photo booth! Of course you saw all the cute lingerie she got! The lingerie I got her wasn’t shown because of course I’m an old boring mom and got her a cute white lace bra and underwear. In my mind that’s risky lingerie! Ha! I definitely need to live a little.
By the way, Alexis is one of the funniest people I’ve ever met! I’ve always loved her since she was dolphin girl on her season, but meeting her in person totally validated all my love for her! She basically had me peeing my pants (or dress? Ha!) during the shower because I was laughing so hard. She needs her own show! I would watch loyally every single week if she had one!
Also, I want to give you details on my dress from Rachel‘s shower. To be completely honest with you I was feeling so gross before I got dressed to go. I was super bloated, about 10 pounds heavier than my normal weight, and honestly a little bit hung over from the night before. Knowing how gross I felt I knew I had to wear a dress that I felt really good in. And this floral dress was it! It is so crazy flattering! I love that it covers my arms because I’m not super comfortable about my arms showing. And I also love that it’s long enough that I don’t have to worry about too much showing when I sit down. I paired it with a cute pair of blush pumps and a $23 purse! Doesn’t this purse look designer and super expensive! I think it does! And it’s only 23 bucks!
And for those asking about the button up shirt I was wearing when I watched the show last night I thought I would link it in here as well. It’s super affordable and only $31 I absolutely am obessed with it because of how long it is! Normally when I buy button up shirts they are short and don’t have that tunic feel wear a shirt covers your booty. And let’s face it, us girls who have hips and butt sometimes like a little coverage when we’re out and about. Not always, but sometimes I feel more confident when I’m covered up. The shirt is super long as you can see in the photo below and extremely good quality.
I actually first saw another blogger wearing this on Instagram and fell in love with it so I ordered it for myself. And when you don’t want to wear it long you can unbutton one or two at the bottom and tie it in the front like I did the photo below. Hard to see because I’m sitting down though. Oh and my shoes above are only $14! It took like about 3 weeks to come in the mail (just FYI) but I love them.
What I Didn’t Love About the Special
A few things I could’ve done without during the special last night. I do wish that they kept Bachelor in Paradise as it’s own separate thing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m freaking obsessed with Bachelor in Paradise! I love it more than any other reality show, honestly! But it’s just a different show in my opinion. I feel like it should have its own special after 10 years of that show or something like that. Just felt weird that the show was mostly about the Bachelor and the Bachelorette with a tiny bit of Bachelor in Paradise sprinkled in. However, I was dying laughing when they showed the “first murder of a stuffed animal”. That scene is one of my favorite scenes in the history of Bachelor in Paradise!
Another thing that was hard for me about the special (that has absolutely nothing to do with the show itself) is the negativity I and many of the other girls received around it. Don’t get me wrong, there was way more support! And it’s those comments that I chose to focus on and respond to. But I have to say I was just blown away that some of the negative comments online about us girls! Whether it was talking about our appearance, the way we talked, or how they hated us back in the day when they watched our seasons. I was really trying not to pay any attention to those people but I couldn’t help myself at times. I’m only human!
And as I read comments from people commenting about my weight, or my hair, or how I was super annoying, I couldn’t help but think about Hannah B. That poor girl has gotten so much negativity over ABC’s decision to make her the Bachelorette that it is shocking but she still standing with a smile on her face. I know I received a lot of negativity back when I was on the show and like I just described, I still receive it now when I make little appearances here in there on the show. So I can only imagine what she feels when she sees the thousands of comments from people bashing her all over the world. So I want to take this opportunity to say let’s be kind to Hannah! She’s a 24-year-old girl that just wants to be loved! Whether you want to be best friends with her or not doesn’t matter. What matters is she’s human, she has feelings, and we as human beings should have compassion for her. I personally think she’s going to be one of the best Bachelorettes the show has ever had! She’s going to be interesting, funny, quick on her feet, and best of all, super awkward! I can’t wait to see her as Bachelorette!
Oh best of luck Hannah! I can’t wait to watch your love story begin next week! I will be watching and I will be supporting and rooting for you along the way! You got this girl!
Love, your Bachelorette sister forever – Ali
UPDATE: Adding the below dress to this blog! I apologize for the weird lens lines no the photo. Just took it last night after watching the show and was planning to use it for my social photo to tell you guys about this blog. But I can’t figure out how to remove the lens lines! New camera problems! Ha! Anyone know how? Anyway, I wanted to share the dress I am wearing because it’s only $9!!!!! YEAH! 9 bucks! Insane right? Size up because the sizes are junior. I am wearing a medium but I wish I got a large.
And check out the skit Deanna and I filmed for her Moms in Cars series! The video is on their Insta TV. It’s the most dramatic date in Bachelorette history! Ha! And give them a follow!